The First Three Months

We have reached Audrey’s three month mark! She is growing and learning so fast… I wish I were able to press pause!

Audrey is able to roll from her belly to her back! She doesn’t do it every time, but she definitely has the hang of it. She can also sit up, supported, for quite a while before getting tired of it. She loves her Fisher Price Floor Seat and sitting in our laps, looking around the room. We bought her a Jumparoo, but she doesn’t quite “get it” yet. She is fascinated by the music and all the colors, but if we aren’t helping her bounce, it isn’t much fun for her yet.

We have established a very loose bedtime routine. It changes with the time of night, her mood, etc. but this is basically what happens…

  1. Around 8pm, depending on what night it is, Audrey gets a bath and maybe just a small snack on a bottle just to keep her calm. We bathe her once, sometimes twice, a week since she really doesn’t get too yucky yet. Most days, all she needs is just a wipe-down with a washcloth!
  2. We bring her into her nursery (she isn’t sleeping in there yet, but I’ve heard that it is smart to get babies acquainted and comfortable with the nursery before officially putting them in there to sleep) and change her into a clean diaper. She likes to be “nakey” for a while at this point; she is much more energetic, playful, and talkative if she is free from any clothes! Funny little girl!
  3. We pick out a book to read to her in the rocking chair. She loves board books with lots of colors–some of her favorites have been Booful Blue and That’s Not My Monster. Sometimes we read her the same book several times in a row if she seems to like it. If she has more energy to spend, we will do tummy time and play for a bit.
  4. When she starts to get tired and fussy, we dress her in her pajamas and bring her into our room (where her bassinet and sound machine are) and feed her until she is falling asleep.
  5. We swaddle her in a Woombie and, if she isn’t already asleep, she quickly soothes herself to sleep. The room is very dark (we have black-out curtains in there) and the sound machine plays white noise.

Our baby girl is definitely teething. I was in denial for about a week, but after asking several mom’s what they thought, most of them told me that their babies began teething in the first few months, too! She has all the tell-tale signs: constantly drooling, rosy cheeks, hard to soothe, hand is always in her mouth. She doesn’t much like teether items yet. We have this cute little set of teethers that will keep her calm for a minute or two, but not quite the miracle we are looking for yet! You know what I found on Pinterest, though, that has helped her, is filling pacifiers with water and freezing them — clever!

One of my favorite things about Audrey right now is her demeanor. It’s like I can already see a personality peeking through. She loves to “talk” with cooing, and her smiles get so big, they almost produce a giggle many times. She seems to be very observant and curious about every single thing, and I can’t wait for these developments to just get more fun with time!

Our big girl has grown into 3-6 month clothes. (Carter’s just calls it “6 months” which kills me! She’s only three months!) She’s also already in size 2 diapers; I know nine month olds who are still in 2’s! I don’t think that I have an abnormally large baby, but maybe I do.

I’ll get real with you for a second: I did go through a bout of postpartum depression for a couple weeks around the 8 week mark. We were transitioning from breastfeeding (which was pumping for me) to formula. I felt so much simultaneous mom-guilt and exhaustion, that it often turned in to anger and hopelessness. I felt guilty that my baby wasn’t getting the “best” version of nutrients via breast milk, but I was also so exhausted and becoming detached because I was pumping all the time. Formula was absolutely the right answer for us, but it wasn’t the easy answer at all. I made sure to communicate what I was feeling to Alex, so that he knew the right questions to ask, how to serve me best, etc.

But, I do have a criticism of some medical practices that I’ve observed… When I was only one month postpartum, both my OB and the pediatrician gave me questionnaires to check for any signs of postpartum anxiety and/or depression. I love this preventative move on their part–it requires a new mama be mindful of her emotions and aware of her thoughts, but I don’t think that one check-in at one month postpartum is enough. Based on what I have heard and read, plenty of mom’s don’t develop postpartum until much later. Plus, many of my friends don’t have babies yet, so they didn’t know when or how to ask about postpartum stuff. I am thankful that I have the spine of a jellyfish, and I don’t have a very good poker face, so Alex usually knows when something is off. My PPD lasted two weeks, at the most, and now I feel back to normal, if not even better, more empowered, more confidant, etc. But, I can see how it would be easy for mama’s to try and keep their heads above water during PPD in silence — no one wants to have to admit that they aren’t the perfect mom, full of cheer and Snow White-ness. No one wants to have to say “I’m not always happy with how life is going,” but we absolutely need to be saying it to someone!

If you’re a new mom, or to-be mom, reading this, please don’t be silent about weird or uncomfortable or dark feelings and thoughts. You are the best mama your baby could ever ask for, and you are doing everything you need to be doing; put your doubts and anxieties behind you! You’ve got this!

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